Enneagram type 3, also known as the “Achiever” or “Performer”, is motivated by an intense longing for success and a strong aversion to failure. This motivation is at the forefront of their thoughts and actions. They are characterised by their high energy, confidence and relentless drive for achievement. They prioritise achieving results that they believe will earn them respect from others, and they have a knack for creating efficient and effective plans to reach their goals. As a result, they often project an image of confidence and success, but sometimes at the expense of their authenticity. The Achiever may lose touch with their deeper emotions and struggle to connect with their authentic selves as they become increasingly absorbed in maintaining their public image.
The “Achiever” in social and professional settings
Achievers exude a strong, deliberate and self-assured presence in their interactions with others. They often excel in social situations. However, when under stress, they may become cold and abrupt. They seem naturally inclined to excel in public speaking and can confidently convey their ideas.
The core belief behind the drive
At the heart of the Achiever lies the belief that the original state of hope, where things naturally fall into place, becomes overshadowed by a world that rewards doing rather than simply being. Consequently, they believe they can earn love, acceptance and recognition through their performances, accomplishments and successes. They develop a powerful self-deception to align themselves with the image of success and approval they desire. Naturally, their attention becomes focused on tasks and the pursuit of goals, their image and status.
Common struggles
Threes may deceive themselves about their needs, neglect their feelings, struggle to complete tasks before moving on, prioritise actions over acceptance, and experience unexpected sadness and anxiety. Cutting corners and softening the truth can make others feel manipulated. They may also become impatient and angry when faced with obstacles or differences that hinder their progress towards their goals, and they may crave excessive admiration and attention.
From the perspective of others, the Achiever may seem indifferent to their feelings, appearing artificial or superficial. They may prioritise goals and tasks over the needs of others, struggle with relaxation and introspection, compromise their integrity to achieve their goals, or give the impression of manipulating others through their constant pursuit of accomplishment.
Supporting growth and development in the “Achiever”
To support their development, it is beneficial for them to slow down, appreciate their emotions, recognise that love encompasses both being and doing and engage in introspection. Help them notice that love is as much about being as it is about doing and having.